Do: Ask “How’d You Compete” Or “Did You Enjoy It?”
If they’re engaging in an activity with a recreational or interest-based attitude, it’s important that you ask them about their enjoyment level rather than performance. This type of attitude enforces that children can like an activity without needing to be the best at it or be productive, which helps them develop healthy hobbies and stress-relief tactics later in life.
If they are competitive in an activity, focus on how they felt about their performance. This teaches them self-reflection and self-critique that can be applied to improvement.