Husbands Share Ways They Still Try To Court Their Wives

You always hear people say things about how hard marriage is and the difficulties they face trying to keep the romantic spark alive. After being together for years, how do you keep things fresh, exciting, and interesting?

On Reddit, one person asked men to share the ways they still work to "court" their wives, and the answers were pretty much perfect.

The Eye Contact Is Key

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"I take the time to look her in the eyes and say something sweet. You may think 'she knows I love her' or 'she knows I think she's beautiful,' but never stop giving those kind words!"

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Try To Give Her Things That She Wants

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"My wife said she liked waking up to the smells of jasmine. I planted four acres of jasmine around the house. She also always wanted a pond with weeping willow trees around it growing. I dug out a creek to make a pond, cleared a few trees, and planted willow trees and wildflowers."

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Show You're Thinking Of Her

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"Gifts out of the blue, the little touches whenever she's within arm's reach, daily texts just to say, 'Hey, sexy. I can't wait to see you later.'

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"...just to name a few."

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Such A Sweet And Simple Gesture

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"Whenever she cooks, I don't take enough food the first time I serve myself so that I can take more later as 'seconds' to make her feel better about her cooking skills."

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He Just Wants To Make Sure She Eats Well

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"I'm making lunch and dropping by on her break to surprise her with it. She has a nasty habit of not eating lunch at work since she became a manager. However, I make sure she's not too busy first so it's not rude or overwhelming."

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This Is Honestly Goals

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"When she gets home from work, we sit and talk, let her vent about her day, I about mine, then we make dinner, sit and watch a show while eating most nights. Only 29 years so far, and hoping for at least another 29."

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It's About Keeping Up Those Little Habits

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"After 10 years, I still open doors for her. Still thank her for every little thing. Still cook for her and bring her that first latte in the morning. Still give her a good morning and good night kiss. Still tell her I love her. Still bring her flowers."

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Nothing Like A Warm Towel After A Shower

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"Random acts of kindness that remind her you were thinking of her. Throw her towel in the dryer for a bit when she's in the shower or plan surprise dates to her favorite restaurant."

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Sounds Like A Soup-er Great Husband

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"I was driving through her college town a few days ago, so I picked up the soup of the day from her old favorite restaurant and left it in the fridge with a note."

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All That Effort For Something He Doesn't Even Care For

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"I hate coffee but on the weekends I get up extra early to make her a cup of coffee for her to drink in bed. It's a process I've been tweaking for years to be coffee just for her."

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Yeah, Make Her Feel Special, Dude!

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"I scratch her back when she takes her bra off at the end of the workday. I grab her a snack even when she says she doesn't want anything and she ends up enjoying it anyway. I always 'oooooohhhh' and 'aaaaaaw' when she steps out of the shower."

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He Notices When She Needs A Pick-Me-Up

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"I buy my wife flowers, at completely random times. No rhyme or reason, I see them and think she needs them—can be every week or can be once a month."

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This Man Is On Some Shakespeare Energy

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"I write her letters every now and then, sometimes romantic, and sometimes nothing but gibberish. However, there's usually a hidden message in the gibberish. Also, aside from cooking dinner for her, every now and then I'll make her one of her favorite desserts."

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Paying Attention To How She Needs To Feel Loved

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"My wife likes love shown through acts of service. I used to get her gifts but she didn’t like that. Instead, she loves when I cook or clean or build stuff.

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"Relationships, like anything else, take lots of work. Once you figure out what your partner's love language(s) are, you learn to express your love that way. Lean into that."

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Only The Best For My Wife!

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"I make her freshly ground French press coffee every day because my lady deserves good coffee to kick off her morning."

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Truly, that little extra effort beats a cup of instant coffee any day.

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Make Sure You Say Nice Things Out Loud

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"Remember to keep saying the things you think. If you think she looks pretty, SAY SO. If you thought about her while you were apart, TELL HER. If you remember how lucky you are to have her while listening to friends or colleagues complain about their relationships, be sure to tell her when you get home."

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Honestly, I Want A Chocolate Stash

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"I stash chocolate so I can give it to her on bad days or just randomly. Sometimes she asks me if I have any secret chocolate. It makes both our days."

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Appreciate The Things She Likes

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"I talk to her daily and know what she's interested in and try to be interested in those things as well. Even if they seem stupid, I care about her and, if she likes those things, I will as well eventually."

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Stand Up For Her When She Doesn't Herself

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"My wife doesn't like to make a fuss, so I do it for her. For example, I'll talk to the vendor if we're given tickets to the wrong movie or she didn't order her food right and it's missing something. She's shy and feels she should just suffer for her own mistake, but I disagree. She always lights up like a kid on Christmas when it gets sorted out."

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Teach Boys To Be Kind Too

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"I've become more clear with my language. Now that we have young kids, it’s important that they hear me saying kind things to my wife, particularly about the right things. What used to be a quick glance and some kind of physical expression now also includes, 'Wow, you look so beautiful today. Your hair is so pretty!'

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"Then our three-year-old usually says, 'Yeah Mommy, you’re so beautiful.'"

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Don't Stop Pranking Her

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"I open the passenger door for her, then as soon as she is about to get in I jump into the seat and close the door."

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Sometimes, it's just about keeping it fun.

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Nothing Like A Walk Down Memory Lane

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"Sometimes we both play hookie from work and drop the kids off at the babysitter for a day together. We go look at old places we lived and old haunts we used to hang out in and reminisce the day away. Then we do something new—a new place to eat or activity. Making memories is super important."

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Okay, This Man Is The G.O.A.T.

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"My wife wakes up hours before me to go to work, so I bought these tiny blank cards and envelopes so I can leave little love notes on her car at night."

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Even In The Bad Times, It's All Love

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"My (now ex) husband used to send me a text every afternoon during lunch that said: 'I love you & miss you. I hope you're having a great day at work.'

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"He even did it the days after we'd have had a nasty fight. It taught me that no matter how bad the argument was, love always came first."

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This Is Actually Pretty Considerate

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"Sometimes, when the mood is right, I'll roll over in bed to face her. That way, when I fart, I'm not farting on her. Remember gents, it's the little things."

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Much Better Than An Alarm Clock

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"I wake my wife up every morning. She's not a morning person, so I do it very sweetly by rubbing her back/playing with her hair, etc. I also fill her water bottle in the morning to help her get ready faster."

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*Whistle Noise* Ayyyy Pretty Lady!

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"I catcall her when she passes me in the hall."

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Is it immature? Maybe. Does she roll her eyes every time he does it? Probably? Does she still love it, though? Absolutely.

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I Would Sell My Soul For A Random Foot Massage

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"Massages, feet, back, neck, or whatever. She's seven months pregnant with our second child, and our first is 18-months-old. Everything is a little sore for her, so no matter how tired I am, she gets random massages."

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Let Her Know You're Her Favorite Person

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"No matter how my day is going, when my wife calls, I answer the phone like an excited child who gets to talk to his biggest hero. Sound excited and happy when your wife calls and you'll have better conversations."

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Never. Stop. Flirting.

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"I grab her booty. Like, a lot."

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Honestly, at the end of it all, the key to a lasting marriage is to remember to treat your partner the way you did at the beginning of your relationship from time to time, botty grabs and all.