People Hating On A Picture Of A Dad And His Son Get Shut Down Big Time

Toxic masculinity. Let's talk about it. For what seems like forever, there has been this kind of stigma against men being emotional and open with themselves and who they are. They have to fit this kind of mold of a manly man, red-blooded, not really close to anyone.

We've somehow tricked ourselves into thinking that violence is a good way to know if someone is powerful, that expressing emotions is weakness, and that we, men especially, have to present this kind of hardness.

When You Say It Out Loud, It Seems Dumb, Right?

Tweet: You can't drink the best drinks at the bar because they contain a color
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Like, it's gotten to a point where men and women are going to make fun of a guy for wanting to order a fruity drink at the bar, which is stupid because they're delicious.

So very delicious.

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Like, Do We Really Need Powerful Yogurt?

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food that had to be made overly masculine
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Do we need to live in a world where even the food we eat has to be gendered so that men don't feel like their masculinity is threatened because they wanted to eat some yogurt?

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I don't think we do.

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Do We Need Man-Sized Tissues?

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Kleenex that are man sized
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It's wild that these are just things about living in the world that we don't even think twice about.

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We just see it and assume that it's normal, but it's so far from that.

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Sometimes, We Forget How Deep The Issue Goes

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Tweets: Guys have to say
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When you think about it, the issue is so much deeper than gendered products and not being able to drink a hurricane.

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It affects the way that men relate to one another and the people in their lives who love them.

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Eric Owens Posted This Picture On Facebook And Faced Serious Backlash

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It's a collection of pictures of him and his son who still loves to get curled up with his dad at the age of 18.

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There should be nothing wrong with this. It's just love and affection between a father and son.

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Of Course, Facebook Had Issues

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Facebook Post: This is the weirdest stuff ever, girl and her mother is one thing, but a man shouldn't be raising a son to lay on him like that. A father and daughter I can see but this here is unacceptable
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People were saying that this kind of affection wouldn't be a problem if it was between a mother and a daughter because women are just more emotional...

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There are issues with that, too, but here we are.

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Others Refused To Believe This Is Bonding

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Facebook Post: Umm there's bonding but this ain't it. I have no words for this. I Can't remember being up under my dad like that after nine years old...Fathers and sons bond all the time...first time seeing this
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Some people were so offended by this show of affection that they refused to accept that this was bonding in any way because they weren't doing anything.

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Are they supposed to only bond while working on cars? Hunting? Talking about girls? Please.

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There Is Just A Lot Wrong With This One

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I don't know many women who like to grab each other by the hair and slap each other's butts, but this person clearly has a very skewed idea of how people interact with one another.

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Hopefully, she was taught proper manners after!

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Of Course, Not Everyone Was So Critical

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Facebook Post: This is beautiful. He's going to be a fantastic father and husband one day, I'd bet money on it. I wish we had more dads like you in the world.
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Thank goodness there were people in the comments who were pointing out that there was nothing wrong with this expression of love between father and son.

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In fact, it should be normal.

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Some Reflected On How They Wish They'd Experienced This

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Facebook Post: I salute you brother...I didn't get a chance to do this with my father, wish I could've but I'll treat my son the exact same with love, great teaching and respect, they have to know that they are loved. I salute you, a beautiful sight...there isn't a stronger bond.
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Living in a world where you can't show the kind of connection and love you feel for your family to them is a really sad world to live in.

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Not everyone is so lucky.

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A Similar Debate Erupted On Twitter

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Tweet: My dad just before he died with my brother. I wish I had one with me.
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Sons and fathers rallied in the comments to share their most precious memories of these moments with their loved ones with no shame and not worrying about how manly it made them.

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I'm not crying, you're crying!

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There Were Tons Of Photos

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You can see in these pictures the joy that comes from fostering that relationship and not being afraid to be open and emotional with one another.

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It's a beautiful thing.

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Look At The Love In His Eyes

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Hopefully, these boys will grow up to be men who are more well-rounded in their emotions and will therefore make better friends and partners, and solidify those bonds they have with family.

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They definitely will.

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Love The Matching Shirts

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a dad and son wearing matching shirts
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We've come a long way in changing the way society thinks about men and masculinity.

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We still have a lot of work to do, and we should try to do it together.

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That Looks Like A Great Hug

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It was only two years ago that the American Psychological Association released its first guidelines on how to help men who have been taught to conform to these ideas of masculinity.

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Better late than never!

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It's Important To Celebrate Successes

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dad giving his son a kiss on his graduation day
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We go through so many things in life that we should be proud of and so many things that are going to make us sad.

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The last thing anyone should worry about is how leaning on the people you love is going to look.

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It's Nice To Be Believed In, Isn't It?

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Tweet: The man who believed in me first
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It doesn't just end with showing love to families.

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These cultural lessons put boys at risk for troubles at school, discipline issues, and even issues as terrible as addiction and heart disease.

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What's So Terrible About This?

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a dad lovingly looking at hi sson
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That dad is looking at his son so lovingly. We should be so lucky to have that kind of support in our lives.

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The kind of love that watches and supports.

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This Picture Will Be A Treasured Memory

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Tweet: Does me and my son count? I intend to do this well into his 40's. He can never escape me!
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We simply need to start by talking about it more and not shying away from those tough conversations that we need to have with the people in our life about toxic masculinity.

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Toxic masculinity is NOT okay.

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Let People Love Their Dads!

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dad and son hanging out in a kitchen together
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There should be no shame in a man posting a picture of his son, grown or young, loving his dad in a way that's tangible and emotional and open, don't you think?

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This is perfect love between a father and a son.