People Open Up About The Most Hurtful Things Their Parents Ever Said To Them
Recently, a Reddit user who goes by the username Few_Reading_4822 took to the internet to ask people, "What is the most toxic thing a parent can say to a child?" The people of Reddit were quick to respond with stories of childhood trauma.
So many people opened up with stories about the harmful things their parents said to them when they were younger. Keep reading to see some of the worst things a parent can say to their kid.
Moving Without You
![Middle class home in Midwest America Middle class home in Midwest America](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/middle-class-home-in-midwest-america.-15509.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"We're moving and you're not welcome"
"This is what my dad said to me while blackout drunk after he took my sister's pizza that I made, ate it in front of me, and then threw the pizza at me after I asked him why he's like that and walked away. We were supposed to be moving to a new place the next couple weeks after this fight." —LiaLovesCookies
The Art Of Co-Parenting
![Moonrise Brandenburg, Sieversdorf: Persons stand on a hill and watch the rising moon. The waxing moon is 99.7 percent visible this evening.](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/moonrise.-69776.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"In my experience, divorced parents that say stuff like :
"Don't talk about that to your [other parent]" "Tell your [other parent] this" "Your [other parent] is trying to manipulate you." "You see what [other parent] did?" It really screws with the kid's head." —Loa_Ex_Machina
Constructive Criticism
![ARGENTINA-VENEZUELA-LGBTI-RIGHTS Venezuelan Migdely Miranda](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/argentina-venezuela-lgbti-rights.-13152.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"'So you're saying that I'm a bad parent' in response to any form of help-seeking or constructive criticism was the worst for me." —DerpCheiftain
Learn to take constructive criticism, even If it comes from your children.
Sibling Rivalry
![FBL-ARGENTINA-DOWN-SYNDROME-TRAINING-CENTRE A boy and his mother take part in a class at the Newells Old Boys' Jorge B. Griffa training centre -an inclusive football school for children](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/fbl-argentina-down-syndrome-training-centre.-40471.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"Constantly comparing you with your older siblings, and extremely different treatment.
It makes you feel inferior to them and like no matter how much you try or do, it will never be enough." —mo95z
High Expectations
![Symbol image - Mothers in the pandemic A girl shows her mother a written piece of paper.](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/symbol-image-mothers-in-the-pandemic.-33181.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"'I gave up everything I liked for you', '95? Why not 100?' 'Why can't you be like so and so's child, they do <one impressive thing>."
A bit subtler than the top comments here but can eat a child's self-worth and guilt them well into adulthood and pass by standard alarms." —Average_jaded_guy
Just Like Dad
![Sunny Weekend In Krakow A family is taking a walk in a park](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/sunny-weekend-in-krakow.-45130.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"Talk s*** about the other parent then compare you to them. "You're just like your father!" —nbryan88
This doesn't seem like a very healthy way to communicate with your child.
Fantasy Vs. Reality
![Barcelona City Council gives free telecare to the elderly alone he psychologist Micaela Salvador attends to a user of the Barcelona City Council telecare on April 9, 2021 in Barcelona, Spain.](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/barcelona-city-council-gives-free-telecare-to-the-elderly-alone.-75114.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"It may not be as harsh as other things stated but the dreaded 'It's all in your head/you are just imagining it."
As it turned out I wasn't imagining it and now I struggle to differentiate what's real and what's not because I was led to believe I thought I was imagining things constantly." —Missing_Maestos
A Reminder
![Tributes To Prince Philip, Duke Of Edinburgh A young girl, her mother and her dog make their way along the Long Walk towards Windsor Castle](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/tributes-to-prince-philip-duke-of-edinburgh.-79136.jpeg?b=0&c=0&width=800&height=533&top=474&left=0&zoom=0.666666666667)
"My mom likes to remind me every so often that my dad never wanted kids, and he told her that if she wanted them she would have to quit working and stay home to raise them.
So two-in-one: my dad didn't actually want me, and I ruined the career my mom loved." —porkchopsquats
A Fight Over Tomato Sauce
![Food Packaged Jar of Tomato sauce with mushrooms. Processed Food.](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/food-packaged.-19335.jpeg?b=0&c=0&width=800&height=533&top=221&left=0&zoom=0.666666666667)
"That I'm f*** useless and can't do s*** because I couldn't open a jar of tomato sauce for my mom at 1am." —ianKenzo
She must have really wanted that tomato sauce.
Stay In School
![The University Of Toronto As Ontario Lays Out Plan to Restart Economy robarts library university of toronto](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/the-university-of-toronto-as-ontario-lays-out-plan-to-restart-economy.-16432.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"After I got accepted to my dream college my mom told me I'm too stupid to actually go and succeed.
I graduated high school with honors. but I thought she was right. I dropped out before I even went. still regret it." —rad_butt
The Right Attitude
![AUTO: APR 25 NASCAR Cup Series - GEICO 500 Tom Logano, father of #22: Joey Logano, Team Penske, Ford Mustang Autotrader checks his phone as he waits to hear the outcome of Joeys wreck](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/auto-apr-25-nascar-cup-series-geico-500.-93653.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"My drunken father once told me, "You'll never be the man that I am." I remember thinking, "You're damn right I won't be." —p38lighting
This is the right attitude to have when faced with a narcissistic parent.
Stop Comparing
![Sunny Weekend In Krakow A family is taking a walk in a park](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/sunny-weekend-in-krakow.-45130.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"If your parents comparing you to others or they are insensitive to their actions.
My friend's parents always compare him(my friend) to his older brother, and it messes him up so much that he has low self-confidence." —xayonx3
Speak Up
![Mutua Madrid Open 2021 Apostolos Tsitsipas, father and coach of Stefanos Tsitsipas of Greece, is seen during his practice session for the ATP Masters 1000](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/mutua-madrid-open-2021.-59990.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"I had and have some speaking problems where I can't motivate my mouth opening enough to let the words out.
One day in an argument with my father, he told me that I should learn to speak. That really hurts especially from your father." —Juppidupp
No Rights
![Close-up of Ugo Tognazzi and his son Gianmarco Close-up of Ugo Tognazzi and his son Gianmarco](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/close-up-of-ugo-tognazzi-and-his-son-gianmarco.-53098.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"you don't have the right to privacy", "you are a child, you have no rights",
"at least I'm putting a roof over your head", "I wish I never had you". —TennisonWii
2nd Place
![JAPAN-COMPUTERS-GAMES-NINTENDO A logo of Japan's Nintendo Co. is seen at a Nintendo store in Tokyo](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/japan-computers-games-nintendo.-42296.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"When I was a wee child playing star wars pod racers on the Nintendo 64 I finally got 2nd place in one of the races I had been losing on for weeks. I was so pumped about it! I ran to tell my mother and she said "Wow! Ya know second place is the first loser."
My dreams were crushed." —2intheAMDaddy
Issues With Food
![SAFRICA-RELIGION-ISLAM-RAMADAN Food is laid out on the table of the Martin family](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/safrica-religion-islam-ramadan.-40286.jpeg?width=800&height=533)
"My mother told me when I was 8, that nobody likes a fat girl. I wasn't even really overweight. That and many other things she said and did made me develop an eating disorder...at the age of 8.
More than 30 years later, and a lot more mental abuse, I still struggle with the whole eating thing." —WhiteGirlGrooves