We’ve all seen the movie where the 15-year-old boy on the baseball team wants to dance instead of play sports, and after a big fight with his dad who is trying to live vicariously through his son, the father accepts the son for who they are and lets him be in the dance recital. We end the film feeling pride for the dad who accepted his son. But isn’t that what a parent is supposed to do?
Forcing your child or teen to participate in activities often ends in resentment and fighting, rather than in your son becoming the next Derek Jeter. So, before you sign up your kid for another lesson, think about why you shouldn’t force them into it.
Today’s society is a world where many parents are having the ideal forced upon them, and on their children, that in order to be successful well-rounded adults, they must be scheduling every free moment of their days with playdates, school, soccer practice, piano lessons, and debate team. But could this also be hurting your child?
We want to expose them to all the opportunities their world can offer, but if they show no interest in something, why force them into when there are so many other things they could occupy their time with?