Husband Blames Wife For Embarrassing Him At ‘Guys Night’ After Claiming He Didn’t Need Help
If you're inviting guests to your home, you usually want to clean up the house and make sure that you're being a good host for everyone. Whether it's a BBQ, a birthday party, or Thanksgiving dinner, the people who are hosting are the ones typically responsible for arranging everything that will be needed, and for cleaning up after everyone leaves.
One husband, however, decided that he was going to play host but didn't want to deal with any of the other parts of the job.
Whose The Wrong One In This Situation?
One Reddit user wrote in the AITA community looking for some insight on a recent event that's caused an issue between her and her husband.
The event? A "guys night" in the form of a BBQ.
BBQs Are For The Men Only
"My husband likes to invite his friends (note: HIS friends. I am not close with them)" wrote the wife on Reddit. She adds that her husband is very proud of his barbecue skills.
The problem is that when these BBQs happen, she "always ends up doing everything!"
His Wife Always Organizes Everything
Ahead of any BBQ he's hosting, "he buys and preps the meat, then grills and serves it" but that's all he does.
His wife is responsible for buying the drinks, clean up the patio/deck afterward, preparing all the sides or appetizers, and taking care of the guests while they're at the house by cleaning up dishes or refilling drinks.
A Last Minute BBQ
Recently, her husband told her he had invited his friends over for a BBQ, "just announced it, didn't ask me."
She asked if she would know anyone but he said she wouldn't because it was "workmates" and that they wouldn't be bringing spouses because it's "guys' night."
He Said He Would Handle Everything
Since it was guys night and she clearly wasn't welcome, she said it was up to him and her husband claimed he would handle it.
"Spoiler alert, he did not handle it."
He Ignored Everything But The BBQ
"He got the meat alright but just ignored any other preparation. The patio was a mess, the upholstery of the garden furniture was messy from our dogs, the table wasn't wiped down."
He hadn't done anything she would normally do when guests were coming to their house, but then his friends arrived so she left to go entertain herself.
Suddenly He Decides He Does Need Help
While she was in the house, her husband started texting her asking for all sorts of things like, "where are the cups, why isn't the beer chilled, what are all the plates, where is the non-alcoholic beer—did you not buy any?"
She reminded him that he claimed he would handle it so she didn't do any preparation.
Everything Was A Mess In The End
When she came outside to check in later, she found that the men had left a complete mess, "a disaster."
The table was cluttered with dirty dishes, there weren't enough dishes and silverware for everyone, and they ordered take-out side dishes to go along with the BBQd meat.
Now Her Husband Is "Disappointed"
The next morning her husband was grumpy and even told her that he was "disappointed" in her for "not pulling her weight" and that she made their family look sloppy.
Well, that didn't go over well with his wife—big surprise there.
Her Job Is Not To Clean Up After Him
"I told him I am not his little housewife and that he is a big guy, and that if he embarrassed himself in front of his workmates, that's all on him."
She also added that now maybe he can see all the housework she does on a regular basis.
They've Come To A Bit Of A Stalemate
Now her husband is still upset and doesn't see her side of it, which is why she turned to Reddit.
She's questioning if she was wrong for not helping him more, despite him saying that he would handle it.
The Husband Did Not Win This Argument
As far as Redditors are concerned, the husband is to blame for this one. He's an adult, he said he didn't need help, but then he wasn't properly prepared.
He doesn't have a right to be "disappointed" in his wife when he turned down her offer to help. That's on him!
