Man Is Roasted After He Asks For Legal Advice To Help Him Get Out Of Being A Parent
Becoming a parent is often not all that difficult, but being a parent is definitely a challenging role to take on. It's hard work, and, no matter how much you try to prepare for it, there are challenges that you never expected.
One man took to Reddit to ask for legal help with his grievances about parenthood, but he didn't get the support he was expecting.
He Took To A Community Focused On Legal Advice To Ask For Help
![[NM] I got a girl pregnant and she wanted to get an abortion but I didn't want that. She ended up not getting one but now she is not involved at all. We weren't in a serious relationship when she got pregnant. She has never met our son. Even after the birth, she had no desire to see him. We went to court to figure custody and support could be figured out and I have 100% full legal and physical custody. Her name is on the birth certificate but she has no custody and no right to visitation or to make things like medical or education decisions. She didn't want any of that. Every month she pays 125% of the court-ordered child support. She says that if I ever marry someone who wants to adopt him she will agree but until then she'll pay support. It's been this way since our son was born.](https://www.dadpatrol.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/nm-legal-advice-78874.jpg?width=480 "nm legal advice")
In summary, this guy got a woman pregnant, and despite her not wanting a child, he begged her to go through with the pregnancy.
The woman complied and had the baby on the condition that she would have nothing to do with the child after the birth. She even pays more than the court-ordered child support!
So Why Exactly Does He Want Legal Help?
Essentially, raising a child as a single father is not an easy endeavor, and he wants a way to get the biological mother of the child to be more involved.
He had foolishly believed that she would suddenly bond with the child during the pregnancy or following the birth and feel inclined to stay, which clearly didn't happen. He wants to legally force her into co-parenting with him.
He Did Not Get The Response He Was Hoping For
This guy clearly posted the story hoping to garner some sympathy, support, and advice from the online community, but the responses he received were not as supportive as he'd hoped.
Instead, people were quick to point out that he was the one who orchestrated the whole situation, so it's on him.
Like, People Were Ruthless In Their Criticism
Despite this guy trying to paint the picture that the biological mother of the child was shirking her responsibilities as a parent, people saw it a different way.
They told him that he was actually the person entirely in the wrong, and the fact he'd begged her to go through with the pregnancy against her will was a cruel thing to do.
The Only Advice He Received Was To Step Up To The Plate
He may have come asking for legal advice, but in the end, people told him that he needed to step up and become the father his son needs and deserves.
Otherwise, they told him that he should consider finding his kid a family who would offer him the proper care.
Here's Another Questionable Guy, One That Left His Girlfriend After She Gave Birth To Be With Her Mom
Imagine that you're a 24-year-old woman who just gave birth to your second child with your longtime boyfriend. You come home from the hospital with your new son, only to discover that your mother has run off with the father of your children.
Would you be happy about this scenario? No? Well, neither was the young woman that it happened to!
Moving In Seemed Like A Good Idea At The Time
If you were nearly nine months pregnant and trying to also care for a toddler during a global health crisis, a little extra support from your family doesn't sound like a bad idea, right?
24-year-old Jess Aldridge thought the same thing, and her boyfriend Ryan Shelton, 29, agreed—though he might not have had entirely pure intentions for wanting to move in with his girlfriend's parents.
Leaning On Mom For Support
Jess and her boyfriend opted to form a support bubble with Jess' mom, Georgina, 44, & her husband, Eric.
Georgina was meant to be helping Jess and Ryan with childcare for their young daughter—also named Georgina—while Jess was just weeks away from her due date.
Georgina herself is a mother of five and has six grandchildren so far, so Jess thought she would be a great help for the young parents.
Someone with five children and six grandchildren will have seen and been through it all.
Something Fishy Is Going On
After Jess and Ryan moved in with Grandma Georgina and her husband, Jess started to notice that her mom and boyfriend were quite friendly with each other.
Friendliness turned into flirting, and Jess even confronted the pair about their relationship multiple times, though they both denied having any involvement with each other.
The Due Date Has Arrived!
On January 28th, Jess gave birth to her son Reuben at Gloucestershire Royal Hospital, with her mother Georgina at her side as her birthing partner. Just hours after her son was born, Jess's boyfriend informed her via text message that he would be ending their three-year relationship.
What was the reason he gave for the breakup, you ask?
The Gas Has Been Lit
When giving a reason for the breakup, Ryan reportedly claimed he was tired of Jess accusing him of having an affair with her mother.
It turns out, though, that Jess's accusations were completely warranted. They weren't accusations; they were facts.
Runaway Grandma
It would seem that the young mom's intuition was correct because her boyfriend Ryan left her and his two children in order to be with Georgina.
Georgina had apparently split from her husband Eric weeks before, so she and her daughter's boyfriend would be able to pursue their relationship. The pair had been planning to run away together and had been involved for approximately six months behind Jess and her father's backs.
Georgina And Ryan Share Everything
After the fact, Georgina told Jess that Ryan had been trying to get with his girlfriend's mother for a while.
It wasn't until about six months before the breakup that Georgina gave in to his advances.
She even admitted they would text every day.
She would read the conversations Ryan was having with his girlfriend on a daily basis, and she said the new couple were very close for a long time.
In A Hurry To Start Their Life
In an interview, Jess said that her ex-boyfriend only saw his new son for a few minutes on the day he was born, and then for approximately 10 minutes the next day while he was packing up his stuff from the home they shared.
Jess even said that her mother was waiting in the car for Ryan to pack up his things, then the pair drove off together.
"You Can't Help Who You Love"
In terms of justification for running away with her daughter's boyfriend, Georgina (according to Jess) had said "We can't help who we fall in love with."
If our mother decided to run away with the father of our children, we'd be looking for a much better reason than her simply falling in love.
Making It Facebook Official
While Jess is caring for her newborn son and probably posting a few photos for her friends to see on social media, Ryan was making a different announcement.
Both Shelton and Grandmother Aldridge have confirmed their relationship by changing their Facebook status, whereas Jess's now reflects that she is single.
Grandma Staying Close By
While Jess is now back home with her son and daughter, living in the house she used to share with Ryan, Ryan and Georgina have found their own place together.
The pair are staying at Jess's aunt's home approximately 30 miles away while they wait to move into their new home.
The Ultimate Betrayal
Jess described her mother's actions as the "ultimate betrayal," stating that "you expect a new grandmother to fall in love with the baby—not the father."
The actions of Georgina and Ryan have torn apart more than one family, but the new couple seems unconcerned about that. They're happy in their own world, as Jess moves on to care for her children without their father or grandmother in the picture.
