Mom Embarrasses Preteen Daughter At Sleepover By Sharing She’s A Bedwetter

If you had an 11-year-old daughter who wet the bed, would you assume that it's something she probably doesn't want other people to know about? Yes, yes you would.

One mom, however, seemed to disagree with that. Why would her preteen daughter possibly be upset about her mom telling others that she still wet the bed?! Who could have imagined that her daughter might be upset about that? Oh, wait. We could have guessed that!

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"AITA for telling my daughter's friend's mom that my daughter has a bedwetting problem?"

Well, that certainly seems like it's going to be an interesting story. Let's find out what went down, and why this woman's daughter claims she's a "horrible person."

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Bedwetting Has Been A "Life Long" Problem

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According to this mom's post, her 11-year-old daughter has had a bedwetting problem for her whole life.

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It's gotten better in the last year and has become less frequent. It now happens usually once or twice a week, rather than every night.

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She Wears Protection, Just In Case

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Though it's gotten better, her daughter still wears protection every night so that if and when it does happen, she's covered.

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This is an important fact for this story, but we'll come back to that.

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Sleepover Solutions Are Needed

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Her daughter was invited to her best friend's birthday party recently, which happened to be a sleepover.

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Since bed-wetting would be a potential issue at the sleepover, mom tried to come up with a solution. She offered to pick her daughter up really late after the other girls had gone to bed so she could sleep at home, but her daughter "insisted" on sleeping over.

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How Is She Going To Make It Through The Night?

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Curious about how her daughter was going to manage, she asked: "how she planned on putting on protection without embarrassing herself."

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Her daughter said she wouldn't need any protection because she was confident she could hold it and that she'd be careful. Her mom, however, argued there was no way she could guarantee that and after much debate, the daughter agreed to at least wear protection.

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Now Here Is Where She Might Have Messed Up

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Though her daughter had already agreed that she would wear protection at the sleepover, mom decided to take it a step further.

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Without telling her daughter, she texted the mom of the girl having the sleepover and "gently" explained the situation, and encouraged her to "very discretely check-in" on her daughter so that she was comfortable at the sleepover.

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Pick Up The Next Morning Didn't Go Smoothly

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When she picked her daughter up the next morning, she was faced with a very unhappy daughter.

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Her daughter "screamed" at her, asking how her mother could embarrass her like that. The 11-year-old said her mother was a horrible person to tell her bedwetting secret.

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Now She Won't Speak To Her

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After arriving at their house, her daughter ran upstairs to her room and slammed the door.

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She hadn't come out since getting home, which is when mom decided to ask Reddit what they thought of the situation.

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Explaining Her Rationale

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In mom's mind, she feels that it's better for her daughter to be slightly embarrassed now than to have had something bad happen.

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"For the short term, I believe I saved my daughter from the embarrassment of being labeled as 'the girl who peed the bed' for years to come."

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"AITA for telling the other mom?"

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In the comments, mom also clarified that she spoke to the other mom after the incident and she said there was absolutely no way the other girls overheard her, and that she was very discreet about it.

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The comments were divided on their ruling.

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It's A Tie Between AH Or NTA

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Everyone agreed that mom had the right intentions for telling the other mom, but the final ruling seemed to be split in the comments.

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For anyone who felt that mom was in the wrong, the main point they made was that she should have told her daughter that she'd be informing the other mother.

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The Daughter May Be Thankful In The Future

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Eventually, her daughter is going to get over it, and she might even see that her mom possibly saved her from a much bigger embarrassment in the long run.

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Everything seems like a big deal when you're 11.