Gender reveal parties have become a norm for expecting parents, and while some parents share in the joy of learning more about their baby-to-be, sometimes, these expecting parents aren’t as enthusiastic. There have even been videos about parents being upset learning the sex of their unborn baby.
TikTok user @emraynea has gained over 1 million followers on the app where she continues to make popular content for her followers. In one of her most viral videos, @emraynea uses her platform to call out boys and men for using the frequently commented phrase “I hope I never have a daughter.”
It’s Not An Uncommon Phrase
Emma points out that the comment suggesting boys don’t want to grow up and have daughters is common on the app.
Usually, it is commented under a video of a girl dancing or wearing minimal clothing.
Have You Ever Had To Turn Your Comments Section Off?
These types of comments are especially harmful when they are about female bodies.
Comments sections on videos can be so vile that users are forced to turn the comments off altogether.
Is This Why Are Men Afraid To Have Daughters?
Emma says that these types of comments target women who wear bikinis or have visible cleavage in their videos.
Men often comment to say that they would not want daughters because they could make the same kinds of videos one day.
She Flipped The Narrative On The Men In Her Comments
Instead of responding with anger, she decided to try and explain the experience of growing up as a girl.
She addressed men with the reasons she is scared to have a daughter hoping to change some of their perspectives.
She Is Scared For Her Future Daughter To Walk Alone
One of Emma’s reasons is the fear of her future daughter walking outside alone.
Girls have been trained to constantly be aware of strange people in their area whenever they go out.
Does Raising A Girl Involve Teaching Self Defense?
The reality is that many parents teach their young daughters life-saving techniques that could help them if they are ever in trouble.
Things like screaming for help and having a safety plan in place helps parents prepare their daughters to defend themselves against predators.
She Fears Her Daughter Could Be The Victim Of An Assault
Still addressing a hypothetical dad, Emma says that she’s scared to have a daughter because of the risk of sexual assault.
She says that when a girl feels like she is losing control of her own body, often it is because a boy couldn’t control his.
She’s Afraid To Have A Daughter Because Of Her Own Experience As A Woman
Emma reveals that she has experienced some of the scary parts of growing up as a girl herself.
She hopes that things change so that her future daughter never has to experience the same fears.
Asking For Help Is Still One Of The Hardest Parts For Women
Women or girls who are victims of assault are often too afraid to ask for help or go to the police.
Sometimes they feel embarrassed or scared that it could happen again. Most times, women and girls know that nothing will come from reporting it or that someone won’t believe them.
“But He Could Lose His Scholarship”
Emma then draws attention to the issue of schools and parents protecting young men who have been accused of abuse.
She highlights how boy’s careers and scholarships have been prioritized over the safety of girls at the school.
She Did Not Hold Back
Now that she’s educated her viewers on the reasons she’s scared to have a daughter, she brings it home by telling them to realize why they don’t want one.
The answer is simple and unsettling.
This Is Why Men Are Scared To Have Daughters
Emma’s video comes down to her saying that men should realize the truth behind why they feel the need to say they don’t want a daughter.
And the ugly truth is because they don’t want boys looking at their daughter the exact same way that they have looked at girls.
Her Message Slams The Men Who Say They Don’t Want A Daughter
The viral video has caused a discussion about how to make the world safer for girls everywhere moving forward.
Keeping young boys educated and teaching them to protect women is a great start.